Wednesday, May 31, 2006 @ 8:36 AM
there were 2 things playing in my mind last nite before i went to bed.
After the exchanged sms'es i had, i realise its not as easy as it seems to be.
then the matter came to 2 final conclusion.
Time & Trust.
It kept me wondering, y trust ? Y now?
Building a relationship is easy. Maintaining one is hard.
It all sums up to one major thing.
TRUST.
In every relationship i've been. i've always trusted my other half, so very much.
I've never in life:
- checked their mobiles
-ransacked their wallets
-prevent them from partying with frens at clubs
-get mad when they smiled or talk to the opposite sex
-stop them from having their boys' day out
all mentioned above. Never.
its juz not me. i am not well versed to doing things like tat in my entire life. i believe, even in a relationship, the other party deserved his/her personal space as well. if never given tat space, i feel they are being tied down in the relationship. and so i thought, being flexible and compromising with one another would be a positive way in staying in a healthly relationship.
and therefore, TRUST , is a big word.
in any case,miscommunication is a common thing. For eg, we may hear or assume wrongly abt wat our partner may say or did say. N when its clear tat its actually miscommunication, things should juz be settled there and then. Dragging the issue will be somethin, well not worthwhile i muz say. Its afterall, miscommunication at the end of the day.
pple assume stuffs cos they dun noe the truth behind it. assuming is another major factor in a relationship. too much assumptions aren't good. yes, i love saying tat. U assume too much, ur mind began to wonder around freely and a lots of creepy & funny ideas will cropped up. then u wil get ur mind all polluted. even if its still assumptions, but the negative thoughts will still remain in u. so is assuming things beyond it reachable limit healthy?
No. Its not.
Then comes ....Time.
Being in a relationship, may it b long or short, doesn't realli matter. its abt how we both communicate, bond and relate to each other. I learnt tat even in a shortest time, i can be soo much in love with the same person over and over again. so does time realli matters ??
i dun think so.
Trust is important. Assumptions kills. Time is not a factor.
So peepz, tell me,
if there is no trust in a relationship,
how far can one carry on ??
i would love to hear your views. Mayb i can learn from them.
email me aite.
till then.
God bless.
P.S : Dyllah, thanks dear for the email. i appreciate tat soo very much. *smiles*
